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Pilgrims R Us

November 22, 2010 by Diane 3 Comments

Pilgrims were brave pioneers that put themselves on a ship and sailed through rough seas to a land they knew little about. Imagine how courageous that was! Truly, it took an enormous amount of courage to accomplish what they did and I applaud and honor them for that.

Devilish…

There was another side to the pilgrims that I want to talk about here–that is the puritan piece. As puritans anything fun or joyous was looked on as an act of the devil. Life was about hard work and struggle, some of the very qualities that allowed them to do what they did in coming to this land.

That Calvinist belief in hard work and struggle lives in us today—it has been passed down through the generations in our psyches, along with other emotional and psychological imprints—fears, superstitions and unresolved emotions.

The effect of the belief that struggle and “nose to the grindstone” hard work is necessary to accomplish anything is exhausting us. As the world moves faster and faster, we are working harder and harder to keep up, and burning out.

Too Much Fun

My mastermind buddy was telling me how much she was enjoying graduate school ; giving herself permission to immerse herself in learning about the things that excite her and being with like minded people. However, she said, there is a part of her that believes that she is not supposed to be enjoying herself; that it should be struggle and strife; that somehow struggle means she is paying her dues.

I knew exactly what she was talking about—I have felt the same thing bubbling around in my head whenever I am enjoying myself “too much”. I believe it harkens back to our puritan ethic—our heritage of hard work being noble goodness and the only path to salvation

Where is the joy in that? When we live from our heart’s delight, tap into the joy that gives our hearts wings, life is a beautiful experience. And it is from that well spring that we give to others, which gives them permission to express their joy.

Go For the Joy

The way out is by giving equal value to the qualities of joy and ease. When we prize those qualities, we stop driving ourselves to the brink and start looking for ways to experience that part of ourselves that finds pleasure in living our lives.

I don’t know about you, but believing that struggle and strife is the only path to the good life  is a belief I want to let go of and move toward nurturing more joy and ease in my life. Like changing any belief or habit it takes time, awareness, and consistency to change.

In this season of giving thanks, I give thanks that we live in a time that allows us to question our beliefs, heal from the past, and choose to live our lives in joy and ease.

Have a beautiful, joyous Thanksgiving with those you love,

Diane

Joy

Joy, it lives inside of us, sparkling bright
Precious jewel, facets of every shape
Reflecting light

Joy, untouched by circumstance, go with the flow
Accepting self, contentment in our core
When we come home

Joy, maker of pure delight, essence of who we are
Joy, grateful to be alive, glistening in our hearts

©2007 Lyrics by Diane Ingram/Music by Chris Farrell

Filed Under: Family, Fun, Inspiration, Personal Growth, Values Tagged With: ease, joy, lyrics

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  1. Mahri Best says

    November 23, 2010 at 12:38 pm

    Every day of our life, we get the opportunity to invoke choice, as one of the many tools we were born with. If we are not en-joy-ing our life we must re-check our choice button and make sure that it is on the on position. We must stop, take a deep breath, turn that choice button to the – ‘if it’s to be it is up to me’ station, then – (now this is the big one) – take responsibility for being joyful.
    You know, it is so much better to be responsible for our own joy. If we want it – we simply, must be it!

  2. Diane says

    November 23, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    Beautiful story, Linda. Thank you for sharing it. There is a CD of songs from 2001 free for download here on my website. I will be recording a new CD’s in the new year–stay tuned! Love to you~ Diane

  3. Diane says

    November 23, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    Thank you for your words of wisdom, Mahri. I wish you much joy and ease. Love, Diane

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